In some ways this book made me very sad and concerned for the world because it seems like self-centered kids are everywhere and fixing things was practically impossible. However, as I progressed through the book, it gave me hope. Some of the hope was for humanity in general, but a lot of it had to do with reminding me how awesome this community is and how much kids to care for each other.
The advertising piece for this book, really did sell me on reading it, and I hope it will convince you as well.
“Teens today are 40 percent less empathetic than they were thirty years ago. Why is a lack of empathy–which goes hand-in-hand with the self-absorption epidemic Dr. Michele Borba calls the Selfie Syndrome–so dangerous? First, it hurts kids’ academic performance and leads to bullying behaviors. Also, it correlates with more cheating and less resilience. And once children grow up, a lack of empathy hampers their ability to collaborate, innovate, and problem-solve–all must-have skills for the global economy.
In UnSelfie Dr. Borba pinpoints the forces causing the empathy crisis and shares a revolutionary, researched-based, 9-step plan for reversing it. Readers will learn:
-Why discipline approaches like spanking, yelling, and even time-out can squelch empathy
-How lavish praise inflates kids’ egos and keeps them locked in “selfie” mode
-Why reading makes kids smarter and kinder
-How to help kids be Upstanders– not bystanders — in the face of bullying
-Why self-control is a better predictor of wealth, health, and happiness than grades or IQ
-Why the right mix of structured extracurricular activities and free play is key for teaching collaboration
-How to ignite a Kindness Revolution in your kids and community
The good news? Empathy is a trait that can be taught and nurtured. Dr. Borba offers a framework for parenting that yields the results we all want: successful, happy kids who also are kind, moral, courageous, and resilient. UnSelfie is a blueprint for parents and educators who want to kids shift their focus from I, me, and mine …to we, us, and ours.”